Jason:

It’s been too long, guys. We hope to settle into a rhythm on this blog soon, for your education, encouragement and enjoyment.

Like I mentioned in the first posting, Melinda is my other WHOLE. It runs counter to most people when they introduce you to their “other half”. I used to think that way too, until I realized that that way of thinking is a trap. I mean, you are YOU, you are a WHOLE (by yourself), and you are ALRIGHT! Never apologize for being you. The problem with most of us is that we never get to understand who we really ARE. And truly, the only way to recognize who we are is to go back to our Creator. It’s like you have a Toyota car. If you have a problem with that car, do you go to the Mercedes garage? No, you go back to the maker. It’s the same with us as people!! When we have those moments when we’re not sure who we are or what we ought to do with our lives (including who we’re going to spend the rest of our lives with), we should go to the Creator. And while we’re waiting on that special someone, we allow Jesus to remake us into His image and likeness. He’ll do it too, and you’ll be amazed by the results of that makeover into the WHOLE that your companion will love. The bottom line: find your completeness in Him INSTEAD OF finding completion in someone else. Depend on God to bring you into true wholeness. What do you think, Melinda?

Melinda:

I was one who couldn’t take being alone. Most of my friends were either married, engaged or courting. It hurt me so much to the point I decided to start searching for the “one” I am going to spend the rest of my life with. You see I thought I knew best what I wanted in a lifetime partner. I was way off! I went through the cycle of choosing the wrong guys to date. They were verbally abusive. They disrespected me. They used me to get whatever they wanted out of me. They easily misled me and then determined I wasn’t good enough for them.

My heart sank! I became depressed and hurt. Then God revealed to me the error in my ways. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. Isaiah 55:8 NIV. My life was never my own to play with. He set boundaries to protect me and to keep me safe. He never intended for me to live a life of turmoil and torment. I was created for much more than situations I seemed to place myself in repeatedly. He longed for me to follow His ways. He came so that I may have life abundantly. He made it very clear I am to become contented being single. He instructed that I find my purpose in Him and walk in it.  He longed to renew my mind and to reveal my identity in Him.

In submitting every area of my life to Him, I found completion and contentment. I avoided those men I thought were good for me, because I came to realise my wants were nothing compared to what He had in store for me. And would you know when I ceased looking, Jason appeared!

Couple’s Corner

Hey everybody, welcome to our blog (smile) – who knew I had it in me to start something like this?

Anyway, I’m Jason, I love God and I love Melinda. So much we’re getting married soon – 19 July 2008.

She’s a real gem, and we’ve learned so much in the year and some we’ve been together, and in the 20-odd years before that. These vital learning experiences I pray will be an opportunity for you to learn, to laugh, and to better love the one you have (or have coming ).

Short intro, I’ll hand over to the love of my life, the sun in my shine, the honey in my Honey-n-Nut Cheerios, my other WHOLE (I’ll blog on that soon)…

MELINDA! *raucous applause*

Melinda:

Hi everybody, it’s such a pleasure to meet you. I pray that these bites of wisdom from our God will enrich your lives. This aims to be a sounding board for all couples who walk closely with the Lord or couples who are seeking the truth and believe me Jesus is the answer.

I have learned alot since I have been with Jason. God’s blessed me with a man who loves Him passionately and a man who will continue to encourage me to seek Jesus for the rest of my days! Everyday is new with God and with each other, as He continues to teach us how to love each other more. So sit back and relax and let the peace of God reign. 

Couple’s Corner